“To be asked to communicate whether in writing or in person with the person who has harassed you, is to be asked to reopen channels of communication that you closed to protect yourself. The person who abused you is given more chances to express himself.”

“Reconciliation can be experienced as the enforcement of communication.”


“If an apology is made to keep a relationship going that is harmful, an apology is harmful.”


“The uses of reconciliation as a governing strategy by organizations is not unrelated to the uses of reconciliation by settler colonial nation states. “

(Thinking about all this in the light of my employer’s attempts to be seen to be doing something about an undeniable bullying and harassment problem... which includes touting a “mediation service”.)

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